How to Talk to Kids About Executive Functioning

Helping Kids Build Executive Functioning Skills: Insights from Our WNS School Psychologist

At Westside Neighborhood School (WNS), we know that learning goes far beyond reading, writing, and arithmetic. That’s why we’re thrilled to share expert advice from Kim de Deaux, our amazing school psychologist, on a topic that touches every student: executive functioning skills.

These essential life skills—like managing emotions, staying organized, and thinking ahead—aren’t just helpful for school. They’re the building blocks for independence, success, and confidence throughout life.

But here’s the good news: just like riding a bike or learning to read, executive functioning can be taught, practiced, and strengthened over time. And yes—parents and caregivers play a powerful role in helping children build these skills at home.

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What Are Executive Functioning Skills, Anyway?

Executive functioning includes a wide range of cognitive and practical skills—everything from emotional regulation and impulse control, to planning, organization, and time management. These are the skills that help kids follow directions, complete homework, plan a project, or even just remember where they put their backpack.

We all develop at our own pace, and that’s totally normal. Kids (and adults!) may be strong in some areas and still learning in others.

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Tips for Parents: How to Support Executive Functioning at Home

Here are some simple, effective ways you can help your child build their executive functioning muscles at any age:

Speak Their Language

Skip the technical terms like “metacognition” or “working memory” (unless you have a middle schooler who’s into brain science!). Instead, use age-appropriate explanations and real-life analogies—like comparing the brain to a backpack that carries tools to help them focus, plan, and remember.

Make It Relevant

Kids are more motivated when they understand why these skills matter. Talk about how being organized can help them find their soccer gear in the morning, or how managing time well means more free time after homework.

Use Real-Life Examples

Show them how executive functioning works in everyday life. For example:

• “Let’s plan your birthday party together—what do we need to do first?”

• “You remembered to pack your homework folder—awesome planning!”
  These little moments reinforce big skills.

Practice Together

Make it a team effort! Try playing memory games, organizing a family outing, or creating a checklist together. Practice is key—and it’s even better when it’s fun and meaningful.

Encourage Self-Reflection

Ask your child what they think they’re good at—and where they want to improve. This builds self-awareness and helps them take ownership of their growth.

Celebrate Effort, Not Perfection

Some skills come naturally, while others take time to master. Focus on progress over perfection. Praise your child when they use a strategy you’ve discussed, and remind them (and yourself!) that every step forward is worth celebrating.

Take Breaks—They’re Brain Boosters

Even the most focused learners need breaks. Work together to figure out how long they can concentrate before needing a reset. Use tools like timers or visual schedules to help them stay on track, and encourage quick movement breaks to recharge.

Provide Tools & Support

From checklists and calendars to visual timers and sticky-note reminders, external tools can work wonders. At WNS, our “Managing Me” program in middle school helps students build these tools into daily life—while also involving families, so students know their grownups are part of their support team.

Be Patient—Growth Takes Time

Executive functioning skills don’t develop overnight. Encourage your child, be patient with setbacks, and remember: just like any muscle, these skills grow stronger with consistent use.

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Want to Learn More? These Resources Are a Great Start:

• Smart but Scattered Kids

• Child Mind Institute

• Executive Functions by Age

• Teen Changers YouTube Channel – engaging, kid-friendly videos (especially great for ages 10+)

• LearningWorks for Kids – games and resources to boost executive functioning skills in fun ways

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About WNS

Westside Neighborhood School is a dynamic Preschool–8th grade community in the heart of Los Angeles’s vibrant Silicon Beach. Our students don’t just grow academically—they grow as individuals, learners, and leaders. Want to see it in action? Schedule a tour today.